Life and the legacy we leave

Hi Guys & Girls,

So slightly profound topic but have you ever given any thort to what your legacy would be when you pass? I hadn't really not until a week or so ago me and Marc where having one of many Indepth conversations about life and so on and he said something that has resonated with me. He writes music and sings as well as keeping London moving ( his a train driver ) and he said to me that he wants his songs to be his legacy, and I suddenly thort what have I got to leave behind when I go, or what do I want to be remembered for?. Well ever since that conversation that I can't get out of my head I really have given it some time to go round my very simple mind and I really can't put my finger on anything imperticular. For a lot of heterosexual people children are the legacy they leave behind, for high powered business men and women the companies they have created are the mark of thier time on this earth. 

You may ask do we need to leave a legacy and I guess the answer is no, we don't have to. We can leave our foot prints in so many other ways such as the friendships we build, the peers we surround our selfs with, the social outings we go on and pictures we leave behind. 

It has all really got me thinking that by being a Gay man I don't have children in my life that will carry on my family name or grow a business that I have created or even be influenced by the upbringing I have given them. 

We are lucky in a sence that the birth of Google and social media has given us ways to put parts of self out into the world, for Marc his music will still be floating around the World Wide Web even when he goes. But for me a hair cut I give someone will grow out in 6 weeks, the make up I do will be washed off that night.

I don't feel that my life has no meaning if I don't leave anything behind but it is a nice thort almost comforting to know that when I pass I will have something possivitve that I can leave. 

My self and Marc as well as being together in a relationship have started our own business called Wigz on Wheelz and it is a mobile medicle wig service for people undergoing medicle treatment or gender reassignment, but before this I was managing the salon in Selfridges and was the wig specialist in the salon. I used to and still do see clients on a daily basis that are facing the possibility of death, and the feeling I get from that is undiscrible. Seeing a person Infront of me who is losing their hair is horrible I wish I could make them better and take the pain away but it's well beyond the powers of my scissors. But I can do is be a small part of their life in helping them keep their identity. 

For so many of us if we know it or not hair is apart of our identity and how we can express our selfs easily and for various reasons this can be taken away from us. Being a hairdresser my hair has been every colour & style going so I have always used my hair as an extension of my characteristic. 

So I guess what I'd like to believe is that the legacy I could one day leave behind is that I have been apart of people's life when they have needed someone to help them feel like them again. I'm not saying I'm self important and people will be externally greatful and remember me for eternity. But just knowing I have been able to give someone their identity back or help them feel like them again, that is enough for me.

Much Love D

Getting Engaged

Hi Guys and Girls,
So decided to give blogging ago, after many years writing for various publications about life style, fashion, hair & beauty I thought I needed a little outlet to write about more open topics.

I wanted my first blog to be about a recent event in my life, I got engaged to my partner Marc after a number of years being together we finally decided to get engaged. WOW no one told me organising an engagement party would be so difficult! Who knew that its like a small wedding! It was only about a week before that it dawned on me that I have only myself to blame for going all out. Marquees, DJ, Bar, loads of food, up lighters and countless decorations. But this has since lead me to think....…A dangerous thing in its self. Why when it comes to weddings and engagement parties do we turn in to obsessive compulsive beings that need to go all out? It took four weeks of planning for a 5 hour party!

For me being a gay man the idea of being able to officiate my relationship with the person I love is a big deal. With recent law changes allowing us to do so it is a big deal in its self. But when it came down to the party just for the engagement I was like a man on mission. Don't get me wrong I loved every minute of it! But come on matching table decorations co-ordinating bar stool covers with high gloss black bars and matching DJ booth even I had enough of my self.

We do party to mark a land mark in our life it could be birthdays, anniversaries, deaths, births or now divorces and we invite our close friends and family. Yet we still feel the need to make it lavish and jaw dropping. I was a groomzilla no question about it and even I am worried what I will be like when it comes to planning the wedding. For me I felt a massive sense of responsibility that people where traveling from afar (Canada, Wales, Brighton) and had arranged hotels near by to join us on our

special so I felt I had to throw a party that was worth the effort they had made. It honestly sent me in to over drive obsessing over a Buffett and I was adamant that I didn't want a sausage roll and cheese and pineapple sticks. But instead I wanted crab cakes, Palma ham and asparagus with fresh made vegetarian dishes ( never ask Greek about vegetarian food). Because we threw the party at our home I  was in a cleaning frenzy for at least two weeks and cleaning things that no one would take any notice of but me.

I could write so much more on becoming a groomzilla but I think the point I'm making is I obsessed so much and got my self so worked up about making things as perfect as I could that I almost forgot to enjoy the process of what was happening making the most of whole experience of organising and executing it all. But I wouldn't have changed our day for anything, being surrounded by family and friends from near and far, so when planning such a massive hopefully one off life time event stop and enjoy it don't get lost in the smallest details of cleaning skirting boards and cleaning your book shelfs just enjoy the time of everything around you.


Much love D